1. Let them go. The first thing to do is let go without oppression and harassment. Remember that we are all free and we can leave a relationship when we want, even without explanation. It is certainly very difficult to forget all the good times that you passed, but now, if you want to get your partner, it is best to do nothing. No phone call and do not send emails or in any way try to connect, it will be very beneficial in the future, you'll see. Now give a little time to discover that you are mature and know how to live without your partner, is the first thing to do to regain your successes.

2. Calm. Calm and patience are now your best allies. Any little premeditated acts, any action undertaken without thinking the consequences could be disastrous and hopeless and could end your relationship. Patience is essential.

3. Do not try to blame anyone. Go around the world by announcing that "you would be capable of anything if you do not return soon," is extremely negative. Threatening to hurt you but it does not work, but will create the opposite effect. If this message reaches the ears of your ex,  which they will surely hear it, that will make you look weak and childish eliminating all your attractions.

4. The Good Samaritan. It is not a good idea to call a third party to mediate on your behalf. The most likely scenario will be a lost friend and your partner and create an even more distance by using this kind of method. I repeat, let it be.

5. Guilt. Everyone does things that we are not proud of. However, nothing we can do to fix that as you can not turn back time. Some argue that guilt is an invention to control people, they may be right. Do not fall into the trap, forget the guilt and make sure you're not trying to bring your ex back for the sole reason to amend a past mistake. If you get back with your ex it will be for love, just because you think you're in love with your ex and because you think you have a life plan in common with that person.

6. Positivity. It's time to reorganize your life and your mind. Do all the things you wanted to do but perhaps you could not when you were a couple. Spend more time with friends, visit your friends and enjoy life naturally. All this will keep your mind and your heart busy and so you will reduce your suffering. When your partner know of this behavior they will think that you now have a happier life and will create a sense of doubt in them. They might think that perhaps the fault was theirs and can be the first win for you.

7. If there is a third person. Do not lose your temper if you suddenly discover that your ex has another partner. Do not pay much attention if you find that someone has suddenly appeared. Usually after a break up comes time to spend on "mourning" and you do not feel like going out with anyone. If your ex has started a new relationship, it is likely to fail soon as they do not have the ingredients of tranquility and peace of mind that is required to take such a step. Most likely, they just need to fill the void you left. Be patient because you will definitely miss your opportunity.

8. Planning. You need a "strategic" plan to get your ex. Think what will you say when you can communicate with your ex or even better get date with your ex, you need to think everything you want to say, the clothes we are wear to the last of the words you will say.

9. The timing of the call. Only when they have spent a few days or weeks and you feel good about yourself you can take the step of calling your ex. You can be sure your ex will be waiting for that call if you followed this advice. In the conversation try being concise, friendly and above all very enjoyable. You can ask your ex out for coffee or a walk, if your ex agrees  try  not to return to where you left the relationship most likely you need to start from the beginning. But if your ex does not want to, do not worry give your ex more time passes and remember that life is not for today or tomorrow ... is for a long time.

10. Forgive and forget. This is one of the most important tips: your maturity comes into play. Now you have to be nice and not criticize or assert anything. To connect and meet with your ex you must act as if neither committed anything wrong. This will make your ex think nice things about you.